Gay Wellness
Posted 11/18/2021 in Massage

How to Book the Right Gay Massage Therapist for You


How to Book the Right Gay Massage Therapist for You

Because booking the right guy can sometimes be tricky... 


There are so many gay massage therapists advertising their services (as well as their “services”) on the internet. Have you ever felt like it's hard to pick the "right" one for you?


Take a deep breath and give us two minutes! 


We’ve spoken to some of the pros in our network to come up with our top tips to help you find a therapist with the knowledge, skills, and experience required to give you the type of massage you want, in an environment that’s comfortable for you, at a price you can afford.


Figure out why you want a massage, and what you want to get out of it


Let's start with a reflective question:  why do you want a massage? 


Maybe a healthcare professional, such as your doctor, physical therapist or chiropractor recommended it. Perhaps you have medical or physical conditions that you think a massage could help. Maybe your friends and family enjoy getting massages, and now you want to try it out. Or you simply love getting massages. Period.


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And what do you want a massage to do for you? Place a mental check next to these, as many as you want:


  • Lower your stress
  • Relax and reduce blood pressure
  • Loosen those tight muscles 
  • Increase range of motion
  • Aid recovery from injury or trauma
  • Feel more grounded
  • Reduce any pain (those knots!)
  • Improve your athletic performance
  • Enjoy nurturing touch
  • Help you feel more grounded
  • Improve your athletic performance
  • Enhance your health and well-being
  • Take a mini-vacation from your routine


Getting a massage actually has so many benefits, in case you didn't know! Take it from Brian, he knows what he's talking about when it comes to massage.


Do your research, consider the factors


Log on to a reputable site (like Gay Wellness) to check out different massage therapists. Look for ones that align with what you want to get out of a massage and why you want to get one. Then it's simple:  if a guy's listing doesn’t reflect your wants and needs, keep looking for one that does. If you're not feeling the vibe, then you're not feeling it.


Here are some things you should consider while booking your massage therapist:


  • Do you prefer the masseur to come to your home or do you prefer to travel to his studio?
  • What modalities does he offer and will they address my needs?
  • How far are you willing to drive to get a massage?
  • Do you prefer working with certain types of people?
  • What kind of setting do you prefer:  clinical, cozy, spa or zen?
  • Is showering after a massage important to you?
  • Are there specialty services (like hot stone therapy, aromatherapy, scrubs) available?
  • Do you have allergies to certain types of lotions or oils?
  • Any other factors?


It’s simple.  If you understand your own needs, and are clear what the masseur offers, you will have a better overall massage experience. 


Connect with the masseur before booking


The next step is to text or call your gay masseur of choice. Go ahead, don't be shy, text him! (Read here for Trevor, a gay masseur, on "what makes it a gay massage?").


You can ask about things you want to know about the masseur, including:


  • The massage styles he works with ("I'm looking for some deep pressure - is that something you do?")
  • His fees for different types and lengths of service, and whether any discount packages are available ("What's your rate for a 90-min outcall?")
  • If it's an outcall, do they bring a table? If it's Thai massage, a floor-mat?
  • What their availability is like (Want a same-day appointment? Go for it! But don't expect them to always have a slot.)
  • The products they use ("What type of oils or lotions do you work with?")
  • What their policy on clothing/draping is...


Also, don't be afraid to ask about his education/training or his years of experience. If he is a good masseur, he'll want to tell you!


You can ask whether the therapist or gay massage service is covered by insurance. You should advise your therapist of any special medical conditions, such as recent surgery, especially if you are under the care of a medical professional.  You can ask whether the therapist or business is covered by insurance. If you have any special medical conditions, you can go ahead and share those. They are trained to be able to handle them and be sensitive to your particular body's needs.


Tip:  if you want the most professional experience, look for a therapist who has a significant number of hours of training from a licensed massage school. In the U.S., if a massage therapist is certified by the National Certification Board for Therapeutic Massage and Bodywork, he has at least 500 hours of training from an accredited massage school and passed an exam. Other signs that a massage therapist is an experienced professional are memberships in A.M.T.A. (American Massage Therapy Association) and the Associated Bodywork Massage Professionals.


Book the session!


Alright, you've called or texted the masseur and you've taken some time to get to know him.  If you're ready and feeling good about it, it's time to book. Now you can let the masseur do what he's best at:  making you feel good!    


You're now ready to enjoy the glorious experience of a legit massage!


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